Falling in Love

Falling in love is a misnomer.  Falling happens suddenly.  You can fall asleep, fall off a cliff and fall from grace in a very short period of time, but love doesn't happen that way.  People who "fall in love" with each other quickly misunderstand the meaning of love.  Lust and like can come on without warning, and they can feel amazing, but love, real love, is so much more.
Love is holding someone's hair while they hurl their guts out after their third round of chemo.  Love is letting your spouse sleep while you get up, for the fifth time, in the middle of the night to calm a crying baby.  Love is selling your collector's edition baseball cards to pay for your partner to finish their education.
If you can fall for these situations with a person you just met, then maybe you can fall in love, but usually, this kind of relationship takes time, takes effort, takes sacrifice.  Few budding romances are able to achieve this level of intimacy and depth in a short period of time.
So next time you fall in "love at first sight", ask yourself these questions:
How many times have I fallen for someone, "at first sight," and how long has it lasted?  Could I hold this persons hair while they vomit?  Could I love them without hair? If I couldn't have sex with this person, would I still love them?
Love shouldn't be easily given, but when it is given, it should be given deeply and when it is reciprocal, then the feelings, the intimacy, the sex, will be the best you have ever had.